When a child is born, so is a mother. Along with the wonderful new feelings that accompany the birth of a child there are a few new feelings that are more difficult to understand…. That feeling is called Mom Guilt. A new Mother will have many new feelings. Motherhood Guilt can be hard to pin point but once you realize it is there you can more easily overcome it. I also include a few Mom Guilt Quotes to help you reflect and focus on the positive.
A Mother Is Born: A look at Mom Guilt
Yes, that baby that lived in your stomach for SO many months is real…
In that instant you feel a love more powerful than any single love that you have ever known before. Yet you feel conflicted somehow while your hormones, mind, body and soul adjusts to this little one being a part of you but yet no longer physically living inside of you.
This is an odd and unexplainable feeling that you can’t really understand yet and it will take time and deep reflection for you to finally have a name for it.
Why doesn’t anyone tell you about Motherhood Guilt?
One of the first questions a new mother is often asked is if they are formula feeding or breastfeeding. That age old question that never gets old but sparks a lot of debate. Surprisingly, your answer to this question won’t escape the guilt. Both sides of the coin aren’t completely validated. Mothers that formula feed feel guilty that they aren’t breastfeeding while breastfeeding mom’s may feel guilty that they are not letting their loved ones share in the bonding experience of feeding their child.
Mom Guilt Spread Quickly
From then on the guilt spread like a wildfire.
I felt guilty:
1. When I had him spend time with other people who loved him.
Grandmother watching him…. Guilt Check.
2. When he got sick.
Sick child… Guilt Check… I wondered if I did something wrong.
3. Because he was an only child.
At times, I even felt guilty that he was an only child and lacking a playmate.
4. When I was so sick while I was pregnant with my second child.
5. That he wasn’t an only child anymore!
6. When I went out dinner alone with my husband.
How to overcome Mom Guilt
Focus on the beauty of that sweet child who sees you return home and runs towards you with a big smile on their face.
Focus on the special giggles that only you bring to this sweet child as you tickle her.
Focus on the softness of her cheek as you plant the millions of kisses you give her every single day. Think of that loving embrace and this tiny warm hand that rests on your body as she peacefully falls asleep .
Focus on the love you feel for her and your strengths as a mother.